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Intro post ^^ [06 Jan 2010|03:46pm]

Hiyerr, I'm Steph, from Englanddd & 17 next month.
After labelling myself bisexual for 2 years, I've finally discovered I'm a lesbian.

My family hasn't a clue (my mum is always complaining that I don't bring my 'boyfriends' home to meet her. I wonder why....? lol)
About half a dozen of my friends know though. On New Year;s Day I told two more of my friends.

One knew before I even told her and she was really supportive. When I thanked her for not being weird with me and for not saying I was disgusting she said 'Of course you're not! What gave you that idea?' as if she was shocked that anyone could have a problem with it. 

My other friend thought I was kidding at first. I had to just sit there for about half an hour convincing her I was being honest. Her reaction was also better than I could have hoped for and she just said she didn't mind because it doesnt change who I am. 

Since then, my sexuality hasnt even been mentioned- its not a big deal to them which is great :D

But I'm in (6th form) college so am staying firmly in the closet for a while yet. 
Why? Because I dont want to be seen by people as 'the lesbian in year 12'- I do have a personality. I want people to get to know me for who I am rather than who I'm attracted to. Does that make sense? 

Anyways, this has turned  into a bit of an essay lol. Whoops ;D Anyone who wants to chat, feel free to message me :) 


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Awful but funniest story ever [24 Nov 2009|08:04pm]

This isn't even a joke it's a tre newspaper article, my friend found it. Don't doubt it's authenticty it's LEGIT. This will make you cringe. It's awful but so funny to laugh at the stupidity. TEATIME

My lesbian dating blog
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recently. [23 Nov 2009|03:04pm]

[ mood | blank ]

Hi!I'm Yumi!

I'm thinking recently things happened to me.

a few days ago,i heard the news that my cousin engaged american guy.
so we had dinner together with them.
that time...of course their parents asked about me.."how about your bf"
so i'm thiking that...from now..these chance will be getting increase...
if I getting older...they wonder about my relationship or marriage.
and asked why you don't have bf or why you don't get married.
it is very hard for me. everytime..i have to say "no" or..i have to say some reasons..!
anyway...they looked very happy.
I feel like..I'm soo lonely.
if i go outside, I can only see couples. it makes me sad too.
usually,there is many dating way if you are straight.
but we only have a few way. on the internet or go to bar?
i want to meet more natural way or other way...but we can't.

I wonder when i can have such happy...
when i can celebrate from others like that.
maybe it wouldn't come...
but anyway...that day..it makes think alot about my future...

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Introductory Post [17 Nov 2009|10:32pm]

Hey, I'm Aimee, I'm sixteen and I'm from the Falkirk/Stirling area of Scotland (anyone else nearby?). I'm fairly certain I'm bisexual (no real experience with either sex, but I'm definitely sexually attracted to both: in fact, at the moment I'd say I'm more into women than men). I'm locked firmly in the closet for now, and I don't have any plans to come out for another few years. I'm finding it really difficult trying to keep this part of myself hidden though. Being able to be totally open about it in Livejournal is a relief.

I know my family would support me, they'd be surprised at first but they'd come around. My dad can be a little biphobic sometimes though, and I doubt he'd take me seriously at all if I came out at the age I am now. If I was lesbian I have no doubt he'd accept it, but I don't think he really believes in bisexuality. I don't know what my mum thinks, although I don't think she's homophobic or biphobic. They aren't what I'm worried about though, it's more people my own age I'd be afraid to come out to.

I was thinking about it the other day, and (offline) I know quite a few 'out' gay/bi boys of my own age, but no girls. Why do you guys think that is? Are girls more insecure, or is there more of a stigma, or something?
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How hard to living here! [18 Oct 2009|12:17am]

[ mood | blah ]

I'm 23 years old living in Japan.
I haven't actually out loooong time. because of japanese society.
I know i like girls when i was young,but I know it won't change anything if i doing something.
because many straight people don't have idea there is girls who likes girl...especially when we are young.
they have only 2 choice friends or not.

I only have been crush on straight girls. because the people i meet is only from school or ..something..!
even there is gay woman somewhere,we won't know..becuase they dressed like a girl, maybe dating with guy, talking about the guy with friends. it's incruded on me..we have to pretend something...to living everyday life..!!
even i don't want to follow that,, people will think strange to me why i didn't talk about guys etc.
every wired thing is...maybe not only Japan,,,but when we have drink alcohol with some friends..(with work or among friends),usually topic is always about relationship,guys...!girls like to talk about it ALL the time. even I said i don't have...but still they try to ask more detail or something. it makes me tired to answer...and i don't wanna answer..!but it seems if i talk about these relation stuff,they think they can share more secret.so our friendship strongly..!
I don't need to do strongly...^^; but...it tend to happen ..!
how do you think about it? it should be private if I don't want to say!?right?

these situation it makes me still closet myself.
I told a few friends..but...not many.

often says..if they are true friends,they will accept you...
but is it true???  I have some great friends.maybe it's not only thinking myself.
but if I tell myself...they don't accept me. are they not true friends?
it's so hard to see people who is right person to tell the truth...

Don't you think so?how do you think about these Japanese society?

thank you for reading!!!

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Georgia High School Boots Crossdressing Student [07 Oct 2009|12:06pm]

Jonathan Escobar, 16 of North Cobb High School has been kicked out because he refuses to change who he is and stop dressing in female attire at school. Please join in taking action to demand school administrators allow him to express himself as he sees fit and to create a policy to ensure the safety of gender variant students.

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"don't think i'll confess.." [01 Sep 2009|01:03pm]

I'm 21 years old and I've just figured out that I'm a lesbian. It all makes so much sense now. There were so many signs that I tried to ignore because of the bullshit that was drilled in to my head about meeting a nice guy, getting married, having kids. I thought I was waiting for Prince Charming to come sweep me off my feet, but the truth is, I'm attracted to women.

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dream/nightmare [08 Aug 2009|10:27pm]

im alone in the house. my parents are out on a camping trip. my brother is out with his friends probably getting a late night snack. its 1 am and im on the piano. as i play i cant seem to concentrate. each passing minute im getting more and more frustrated. more and more mad. i dont know why. i dont have a reason. soon im yelling. yelling in this empty house. yelling nothing at all. yelling that i hate piano. that i hate myself. just yelling. my dog gets up and comes over, wondering whats wrong. i realize i wont be able to play piano for the time being. i should get some sleep.
im with A. we're close and we're laughing. flashes of moments when we had so much fun. when i was younger and naive. when i didnt feel like this was wrong. it's just a close friendship. and im feeling great being around her. we're sitting on my living room floor with the couch to our backs. and she's leaning in close to me. her head on my shoulder and im leaning in close to her, my head on her head. and shes playing with my hair. and i get this feeling. it makes me want to smile and laugh and shout out to the world. it also makes me want to jump up and run away. suddenly my aunts in the room. shes looking at us with narrowed eyes. i can see her brain working. next thing i know im in a room with her and shes asking me. is anything going on? come on, tell me. somethings going on isnt it. yea its you and her isnt it. this is wrong. you;re a girl. shes a girl. dont do it. this is wrong. and suddenly my aunts face turns into my moms face. and shes frowning at me. not talking to me but theres confusion and some animosity in her face. my brother walks in. whats wrong? he asks. no one says anything. but somehow i know that he knows. he knows whats going on. now im in my cousins room with my brother. we're just lounging around chilling. my brother leans over and whispers in his ear. my cousins eyes go wide. and suddenly they';re looking at me. they're judging me. i cant take it. i want to yell. i want to scream. i jump up and run out of the room.

im in class. i wont look at A. my eyes sting. im so frustrated. and angry. and embarassed. shes sitting right next to me and i refuse to look at her. im not angry at her. but im embarassed. im so angry its uncontrollable. next thing i know, im at home and its 2 am in the morning. everyone is asleep. i slip a piece of paper with a quote ive written on it under my parents bedroom door. they'll find it when they wake up. its got a quote, about acceptance. skip ahead to a few days later and im slipping another quote underneath. its about opening your mind to differences. now its just flashes. each night, i wait until everyone is asleep and im slipping pieces of paper with quotes under my parents' bedroom door, reflecting how angry i am. because we dont talk anymore, my parents and i. the only way ive been communicating with them is through these pieces of paper i slip to them.

now im lying on my bed. facing one way. A is lying beside me but im not looking at her. i can feel her breathing beside me. her arm and shoulder are pressed up against my back and i feel comforted knowing shes lying there beside me. we're silent and its a comfortable silence. we both know that we're about to have a talk. an important one, that, im sure of. but instead of talking, we're just lying there. enjoying the silence and the moment. because i still have some hurt in me. some anger in me. some embarassment in me. and im scared. so scared. it's ridiculous how scared i am.
i wake up to the slam of the door. i blink a few times and realize that it must be my brother leaving for his guitar lessons. I turn around in bed almost expecting A to be sleeping there next to me. But she’s not. and its a saturday morning and my parents are still out on their camping trip. im alone in the house. i stir a little, still in my half-asleep half-awake haze. and the dream starts coming back to me. actually it HITS me like a freight train. and suddenly im crying. it starts off slow. and im asking myself why am i doing this. why are you letting yourself cry like this? it was a dream. and i realize, this is whats been bothering me. this is why i cant concentrate on anything anymore. this is why i was so frustrated while playing piano yesterday night. dreams dont lie. i read somewhere that dreams are just the way your brain processes your thoughts, your feelings, your emotions, your fears. and i know deep down. this has been lurking around in my brain. the fear. ohhhh the fear. of someone finding out. of everything going down the drain. Of my life completely ruined. Because someone found out. It’s the worst thing that could possibly happen to me. And im so scared it will happen. It could. That dream felt so real. And suddenly im crying so hard im gasping. The kind of crying where you’re sobbing out loud. Because im that scared. Im that upset and afraid. And my sleeve is wet now. And im looking up at the ceiling.

I start to calm down. No one’s in the house to hear me. Thank god. That must have been why I let it all out like that. Because I haven’t had a chance to let that out. Someone has always been in the house, or around me. Maybe that’s why im always trying to find space and time by myself. My mom is always asking me why im in my room with the door closed. Why would you possibly need to close the door in this household? She doesn’t like it. She doesn’t understand. Maybe I’ve just been trying to find some space to myself. To let it all out. And ive finally gotten my chance. In a way it feels good. Im starting to calm down. The tears still run down the side of my face to my ears because im still lying on my bed looking up at the ceiling. I wipe them away before they reach my ears. My breathing slows down and im just lying there now. Kind of spent. Feels good to let it out. It actually feels…. Calming. I feel my lips twitch. They want to smile because it feels that good to let it out like that. With no one in the house to witness my break down. I like that.

I turn and look at my alarm clock. Its been an hour. I know this because my brother leaves the house at 9 for his lessons. I didn’t even notice that id been crying for that long. I reach over to my nightstand and grab my ipod. I put my earphones on and press play. I realize its currently on my Our Lady Peace playlist. Its good music. It’s the perfect music for me right now. I lie there, listening to the poetry In the lyrics. I lie there until the playlist ends and theres silence once again. I stare at the ceiling and think back to the dream.

The frustrating part about dreams is that you never get to the end. Someone always wakes you up before the most important parts happen. In my sub-conscious, I know that there was a happy ending to my dream. There has to be. Even if my parents never accepted me, I’d still grow up 20 years later and be living my life. That would be the happy ending. Just growing up and living my life however I wanted to. But my dream never got to that part. And it frustrates me a bit. Actually quite a lot. Where is my happy ending? I remember a quote from the song Film by Nas. “ if I could only press pause, or fastforward past the hardness. “ I remember replaying that chorus over and over the first time I heard the song. Sometimes I wish I could do that. Just skip to 20 years ahead. Past all the hard parts of coming out. Or not coming out. Past the animosity from people. Past the awkward parts. Maybe even past A. maybe I’ll find a guy that I actually like and then settle down with him and no one will judge me anymore. Or maybe ill have accepted who I am. And I’d be settled in with A or the girl of my dreams. And maybe in 20 years my parents will have accepted me as well. Who knows. But all I know is that in 20 years, things will be alright. So why cant I just skip to that part of my life?

One thing I know though, is that if I enjoyed any part in the dream. It was the last part. Lying in bed beside A. maybe that was my happy ending. Just lying there, not thinking about the bigger picture. I want that moment back.

I hear the front door open. Now my brother is calling my name, asking if im awake yet. I tell him ya, im up. I walk downstairs and hes got a loaf of banana bread that his guitar teacher must have made and given to him. Hes also got two coffees from timmy’s on the table. I smile. Its sunny outside. I tell him thanks and I grab my cup of coffee and a slice of banana bread and I step outside into the backyard. I let the dog out as well and shes running around the yard now. I sit down on the outdoor recliner and eat my breakfast. I guess life goes on. No matter how scared I am. Life goes on. So I’ll just continue living it.


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[08 Aug 2009|07:09pm]

Hi, I just joined. Just wondering if there is any MtF transgendered people in here. :)
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Lady Gaga Comes Out as Intersex? [07 Aug 2009|12:44pm]

Pop star sensation Lady Gaga surprised her millions of fans by parading on stage without an underwear showing that she is intersex and has male and female genitalia. This has not yet been confirmed, but the video is certainly interesting.

Video and more info on her alleged reply at http://queersunited.blogspot.com/2009/08/lady-gaga-comes-out-as-intersex.html
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new? [06 Aug 2009|02:04am]

 hi, im 19 . im new here. new to this whole thing more or less actually. i joined this group so i could explore this whole thing more. 


i always thought i was straight, until about last year, when i realized that i had a crush on this girl down the hall. i thought it was nothing, till i started realizing that i was attracted to other girls, then started thinking of them sexually, then decided that i wanted to pursue this more, so here i am. hoping to find people who are in either the similar situation, or whatever who are willing to give advice or just talk about this stuff. 

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help [29 Jul 2009|01:13am]

Hi there. I decided to join this group because I've grown a little tired and I'm exhausted from figuring things out.

My name's Bridget and I'm 21 years old. This Friday is my Birthday. I'll be 22 and I'll still be a virgin. This doesn't bother me much... or at least didn't really bother me until recently.

Why? Everyone seems to think something is wrong with me. I began to ponder if I was a lesbian. However I just don't know and I can't trust my senses for the life of me. I wish I could find out without actually having to experiment or anything... but I can't tell. I mean... I think guys are awesome and cool and attractive but I often decline their advances. In fact there isn't one I accepted EVER. Even though I think guys are swell and good looking.... I get very nervous around them. The only person to ever get close to expressing some affection towards me was a girl in college. She kissed me as a joke... and caught me by surprise. It felt so good I wanted to kiss her back! However nothing ever happened between us.

I'm just so confused because most lesbians seem to KNOW they are a lesbian... because they always felt that way...

but I don't think men are ugly or anything, and I fangirl about guys in books, comics, shows, and various medias all the time....where as I don't really fangirl much about other females.

but in everyday life I can't seem to bring myself to date yet....

When I was a kid I thought I was straight... thinking I was going to get married and have a kid... but as an adult now... I don't want kids... and I haven't dated!

I'm just so confused and I don't know what to trust. I keep over thinking things... like "what if I just haven't meet the right guy, or what if I'm just saying this because I think men are scary, or what if I'm bisexual, what if I'm asexual, what if I just liked that kiss because It was my first kiss?"

I just don't know...

I turn to you all for advice... how did you all figure out yourselves? How could you trust your senses? How did you get your answers?

I feel like I should just remain alone. I'm not sad or lonely... but I sure feel different and I know my family thinks I'm strange.
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Sundays of Solidarity [30 Mar 2009|01:53pm]

Between May 17 and June 28, 2009, groups of LGBT and allied people around the country will attend worship services at a church of their choice - a church that is not welcoming and affirming of openly LGBT members and guests. Each group will wear a lapel button that reads "gay? fine by me." For less formal churches we also have a t-shirt with this message. The lapel button (or t-shirt) serves as a conversation starter - opening dialogue with people in the church about faith, sexual orientation, and gender identity.

When that visible act of courage is paired with adequate training, then transforming hearts and minds becomes a bona fide possibility. That's why we've designed a three-part teleconference course and a resource webpage that covers the essentials of Nonviolent communication, Media talking points, and What both the Bible and science really say about homosexuality. Training teleconferences will be held on April 19, April 26, and May 3 at 4pm CST. To register for the trainings go to http://www.soulforce.org/moodle/login/index.php and enter your information.

We hope you will consider organizing a Sundays of Solidarity project in your area. It simply involves choosing a church in your area that could benefit from an SOS visit, using your contact list to recruit others to join you, attending the teleconference training sessions, and then organizing your group to take action on one of the Sundays between May 17 and June 28, 2009. To purchase a lapel button or t-shirt, please visit http://finebyme.org/sos.html.

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[29 Sep 2008|02:19pm]

[ mood | nervous ]

Hi. I'm new. I'm 15. When i was about 12/13, i realised that i was attracted to girls as well as boys. And i was depressed. So i went and talked to my mom about it. She's not at all homophobic, which helps, and she's quite liberal and stuff, but her reaction was still, 'oh you're a teenager, you're confused, you'll get over it'.
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insight on coming out!! really important! [28 Jul 2008|04:11pm]

[ mood | amused ]

Hi Guys!

I just watched the most important film I’ve watched all year called Coming Out Stories. Its a documentary made by Logo, the LGBT channel, and it follows several different people as they come out to the most important people in their lives. I was really glad I saw it and finally understood what my sister went through. I found the DVD for rental from this site - http://www.logoonline.com/netflix.

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Blah ;/ [16 Apr 2008|03:30pm]
so i'll introduce myself.
my name is adrian and i'm 14 years old. I think i could be bi or gay. i'm hoping i'm bi but i need some major advice. anyhelp?
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[28 Oct 2007|03:03pm]

Hey there!

Have you found yourself stuck in a place where you feel uncomfortable being YOU? Have you wanted to go to a place where you can be yourself, share stories with others like yourself, and just kick back for some fun?

Then this might be the site for you! It's a new forum community focusing on the LGBT side of things. It's a place for all kinds of members - Young, old, new to the internet, veterans to the LGBT community, tall, short, shy, outgoing, anyone you can think of! It's a relaxed, SAFE environment for everybody.

Please take a moment to check us out. I promise you won't be disappointed - You'll want to keep coming back!

The Pink Line.
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"Kicked Out" call for submissions [25 Oct 2007|09:17am]

Edited by: Sassafras Lowrey*
Publisher: Homofactus Press
Deadline: March 1, 2008

Kicked Out is an anthology, which chronicles the experiences of former queer youth and current queer youth who were forced to leave home as minors because of their sexuality and/or gender identity. Kicked Out tells our collective stories of survival, weaving together descriptions of abuse, and homelessness with poignant accounts of the ways in which the queer community offered sanctuary, and the power and importance of creating our own chosen families etc. Kicked Out offers advice and wisdom to the queer youth of today from former queer youth who have survived. Additionally, it provides the opportunity for readers to get a glimpse into the world of those queer youth who as a result of circumstance have had to leave home, while simultaneously shattering the stereotypes of who queer youth are, and what they have the potential to become.
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[05 Sep 2007|02:19am]

being gay makes me want to throw up sometimes out of uncomfortable-ness/fear. especially since it's starting to creep its way into my comfort zone to the point where i want to make friends with GLBT people on campus and be more out...
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Curious Niece. [04 Sep 2007|04:37pm]

Hey, everyone. I joined this community today because I needed some advice on an on-going family issue. I'm a 20-year-old lesbian, & while my family isn't as accepting of it as I'd like, I understand that many GLBT people have it worse, & that my family has actually come a long way.

Well, over the weekend, my brother got married. He married a woman that I've known for about 8 years, used to live with, & is the mother of my niece, Jennifer. She was always cool with my sexuality, but recently expressed her hatred about me being gay (saying that my niece draws pictures of 2 girls holding hands & that's it's just not normal, & she doesn't want her near me anymore). Things have cleared up & I thought everything was cool. But before the wedding my sister wanted to invite a last-minute guest. Not having a date, I said, "Well, if she wants to come, she can come as my date or something. I wouldn't mind."

My niece overheard this, & then asked, "Can 2 boys get married?" It didn't even phase me, & I said, "Yea, Jen."

My Mom had a HUGE problem with this. She says that since Jen is only 6, she shouldn't be educated about these things. She thinks I should have said No to her. I made it clear to my Mom that when I finally bring a girlfriend home to meet my family, I want Jen to be comfortable & not confused. I see absolutely no problem in letting kids know that 2 girls, or 2 boys, can have a relationship (just like her Mom & Dad). I think it's fine to teach kids about tolerance & different kinds of relationships & families. Jen even has a T-ball friend with 2 Moms! What if they give each other a little peck on the lips in public (as many straight couples do) & Jen wonders about it? There are also 2 same-sex couples on my Mom's side of the family; A gay couple & a lesbian couple. What if they decide to tie the knot & Jen is invited to the wedding/commitment ceremony?

Maybe I am being overly sensitive, but if my Mom TRULY accepted me & my lifestyle, then why does she have such a problem with letting Jen know that it's okay? It's almost as if she still feels that it's somewhat deviant & perverted, & that Jen shouldn't be subjected to it. I am not a deviant or a pervert, I am simply a girl who likes girls, & I see nothing wrong with it. If it’s okay to tell Jen that a boy & a girl can get married, then why should it be a big deal to tell her that 2 girls or boys can get married, too? I try talking to my Mom about this but it always ends in an argument.

So, my apologizes for writing a novel here, but I really have no idea how to deal with this. What do you guys suggest?
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